“When I stop becoming, that’s when I worry.” Stephen Dunn
An open mind means listening carefully so you are sure you have heard. It means concentrating on what the others saying, checking that which you feel unclear about and it includes being open to changing your views. Not you have to change your views. Not you must change your views. Simply that you might.
And my dearest friend R…when ya think you know it all (the quoting of info with no heart) but its bringing you no joy, reassess hun. It is in the moments when I recognise my ignorance ,despite all the learning, that the door opens…and more comes. Has to be room hey!
An open heart means an awareness of the beauty and rights of the human being standing before you being equal to your own be they a relative or not. On open heart means understanding that outward behaviour does not relate to inner value.
It means recognising that the place one lands in the world largely dictates their religion, politics, outward behaviour and is soft wired into the brain in the first twenty-five years. An open heart recognises this story of conditioning is the story of the person in front of them and the story of their very self. (And no, it doesn’t mean accepting bad behaviour).
A leashed ego?
So as adults, a leashed ego means emotional maturity. Please get this. We all screw up. We all make mistakes. We all feel rage. We all have moments when we stare at this child whose completely defying us and feel like slapping them down.
We all have moments when a bad driver makes us think thoughts that sound bloody homicidal. We all have moments on blog sites where we read something and think…hmm…rude thoughts.
But these reactions of ours have no place in our behaviour. Lets face it when we let this stuff move from thought to action we are indulging ourselves only. No adult tantrum throwing is ever going to create great outcomes. Never does, never will.
Emotional maturity equals leashing the knee-jerk reactions to life. It means acting intentionally which requires thought. It means an open mind and an open heart. And mostly it means being responsible for self.